Finding Fault and Addressing it!

Learn how to set boundaries. Imposing limits with other people to protect your time, health, and energy.

Have you ever experienced being around people who always find fault? No matter what you do, how you do it there’s always something wrong with how you look, how you dress, your weight, your hair, how you walk, how you talk, you name it. Did you grow up in a negative home environment where you were always disciplined, not able to express your feelings, told negative things, negative words spoken over you, and you lived afraid that something bad would someday happen to you out of fear?

Many can say it doesn’t bother them when they are treated this way and realize later in life fault-finding surfaces. Someone may bring up what you’ve done in your past or find fault in how you do things, and look for your mistakes. This behavior is not acceptable and it damages your self-esteem, bruises you emotionally, causes a lack of confidence, hurt, and pain. You feel that you're not good enough, you don't meet the expectation or measure up to how fault-finders see you. These traits can store triggers in one’s memory that can show up periodically.

People that find fault in others must have some deep-rooted insecurity in them, they must have struggled in childhood, are often selfish, hurt, broken, jealous, critical, and hypercritical. These people want others to see things their way and from their point of view. The habit of constantly pointing out people's faults is most likely a need for attention and validation. Life teaches you to believe in yourself, not being swayed or caring about what others say or think about you. Stand for what you believe, and set serious boundaries moving forward.

Believe in yourself

Believing in yourself is not being swayed by others' opinions. Love yourself just the way you are with all your flaws.

Believe in yourself and don’t second guess what you're capable of. Trust your gut instinct and have confidence in your own abilities. It’s important to do what makes you happy and be confident in the decisions you make for yourself. Be careful how you hear and where it comes from. Decide what you will or will not accept in relationships, remove anything that doesn’t bring you #peace and #joy including Fault-Finders. Believing in yourself means having #faith in your own capabilities, and being able to trust yourself to do what you say you’ll do. Your self-worth is the sense that you are valued as a human being.

Set Boundaries

Boundaries are imaginary lines that separate people from each other. It separates our physical space, feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others. Setting boundaries with people means creating rules and limits with other people, communicating what you will or will not accept in the relationship. Fault finders are usually uncomfortable in this space because they are not in control of defining your boundaries. Remember, you don’t have to explain yourself when setting healthy boundaries for yourself, it’s taking control of your feelings and healing to the soul.

Focus on the positive in your life

Remove Fault Finders out of your personal space and always follow your gut instinct!

Stay true to yourself and be transparent. When you are transparent with others, they can see who you are. Live a positive life expecting a favorable outcome. Be happy and focus on good things. Keep a positive attitude and never allow negative influences to take up residency in your heart.

Stay true to yourself!

In spite of what people think about you and how others feel about you, stay true to yourself. Believe in yourself, follow your instinct, remove toxic people and conversations from your space, and set boundaries that you control over your life.